Leaving My Partner in exchange of Career

It was my 4th time to be in the same situation. I must leave my partner to become successful in my career.

The first one. He said, "I know you love your bf, but if everything goes wrong with you and him, then we're on." (Then I can go to US!) I could not remember the exact words and I was not sure if that's a real deal but of course, I said, I'm not sure, just to gently say no to my boss. I was his legal assistant.

The second one. I was already under approved petition for fiancee visa (from my ex, US Navy), awaiting medical schedule in St. Lukes and ready for interview in the US embassy. We broke up for 5 months because of him cheating) but still my petition was just there, ready for confirmation from me. One call to the embassy and I would be scheduled. He called me and wanted me back, be his wife, go to US. I was already dating a new guy named Michael then. One afternoon, while I was looking at the sky, at around 5pm, suddenly I felt like I was in another place. Some wind whisphered to me "Would you be happy there without Michael by your side?". Okay, I said, Im choosing Michael, not this ex that petitioned me and would have brought me to US in a month or two.

The third one. My classmate in my Law Review Class offerred me to become his assistant at first. He said he would help me go to US. I said yes, so "lets start the process". I thought he was going to process a work permit for me so that would be fine. But later, he said, if you want to go there quickly, I will marry you and divorce you. Hmmm, that sounds awful to me. I was dating Michael. I told him about it, he said, don't go. I also told this to two friends. They said, "how come he would help you? There's something in exchange of that".

"~because I am kind? haha", I told them... Okay, I know... He has a crush on me. Later on, he said, "maybe we could make the marriage real. Be the mother of my children". Oh hell no! He is as old as my father!

The fourth one. I was offerred a really really good job. I would become a consultant in Australia for Filipinos who want to go there. I would have to be trained for 6months, go back to the Philippines, train again for 6months, then go back, then train again for 6 months. I was overwhelmed. I did not apply for the job but because of my existing knowledge in Australian immigration law, I was offered to become a business partner, and become a consultant. The only thing they like is focus. No boyfriend or partner or husband allowed. How could I do that? I should leave my bf, actually, break up with him. The demands of the job would be really demanding. And I could not be successful if I would become a girlfriend/wife/partner. The owner of the business said, many have tried not to leave their partners and they all failed. I wanted to tell him, "Sir, you're the fourth one to give me a good opportunity in exchange for my partner, but you all failed. So I declined the offer, and have chosen my partner.